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  • Writer's pictureAlan and Jean McKinnell


Anniversaries are a time when we reflect on a past event, this week we've had Axel's birthday and the anniversary of Rabbie Burn's birthday but not all anniversaries are joyous occasions some can be a remembrance of bad events, how you deal with the bad anniversaries can affect your whole day, week, month, year or even years.

It was just after a Burns evening in our local social club that Jean had heart palputations which lead to her being hospitalised with a heart attack, she was just 24 years old and we had a 2 and a half month old baby daughter, Kerry. There is scarring to her heart, as showed up in another health scare years later but Praise God she made a full recovery. That was 38 years ago but you don't forget things like that.

Round about this time of the year two of my brothers-in-law died within a week of each other, both young and both unexpectedly. My brother-in-law, Peter, died of a massive heart attack, he was 59. Then a week later in a completely unrelated incident one of my other brother-in-laws, Bobby, committed suicide at the age of 33*, he was Jean's baby brother. It is hard to believe these happened 20 years ago, if Bobby had survived he would still only be 53.

I'm afraid I am not very good at anniversaries and sometimes they are on me before I realise it, Jean will just have a far away look in her eyes and suddenly it will come out that it is the anniversary of Bobby's death and she is just thinking.

Everyday of the year people will have that moment, some reflecting on what could have been, what might have been, if only this, if only that, if only I had said this or hadn't said that. Every day is a gift and we must use that gift to be there for each other, because as the saying goes 'live everyday like it's your last, one day you will be right.' Today if you are struggling with a 'bad' anniversary, take it to Jesus.

Jesus says - Matthew 11:28 New International Version

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

*Suicide is not painless - Chapter 16, Route 66, from Tarbolton to Toxteth via Toulouse, by Alan McKinnell available on Amazon and ebay.

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